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Most existing users do visit every new profile. This means that once your profile is new, you get visited often. Therefor, it's a good idea to keep that in mind instead of 'leaving it blank for now'.
You should also realize that if you are online often, you get much more visitors to your profile (and contacts) then when your profile is 'just sitting there'. The Who's Online lists & Search Online, as well as the Who's Online thumblists, are your best options to get in touch with fellow users
Adding your profile
Because this site is used by various types of users in various ways, we decided not to pin people down on too much obligatory information. We merely leave it up to you. Therefor, be extensive in your description. Furthermore most profiles are usually skipped if barely any info is available, and empty profiles are technically blocked from views. So tell your fellow users something about yourself, what you like, your dislikes, your hobbies. etc. And write it with what you would like to know from that user if you read his profile in mind. You can always disable, or even delete your profile selecting Your Account -> Your Settings -> On Line Settings and browsing down. Please note that (near to) empty profiles are removed.
Use the menu option Your Settings -> Edit Photos to add more pictures to your profile. You can add up to eight. Important: Add one at a time only!
It doesn't need much illustration that a profile with more pictures gets much more response then without any. Common practice is to upload a 'normal' picture for your first one, and if you would like to add xrated material to protect those, or at least not put them in first (our webmasters tend to delete such profiles at times). You should realize that this site also is visited by non members; if you protected your picture, it is not for them to see.
Sometimes you see "no pic, no reply" on users who themselves did not put a picture there. Obviously they should not expect any replies.
How to use this site
This site is designed from two viewpoints:
First, we think people would like contact now. Therefor, you can use the Who's online, and the Search Online function (found: menu on the left: Search Online.
As you may sometimes feel for a quick sexcontact only, instead of making contacts and just meeting people, we've created the login option 'just a quick sexcontact'. This images shows up everywhere with your name then, as well as on your profile and in the online lists. Furthermore, it offers some extra functionality: If you follow Search Contacts -> you will find under Search Online two additional options: Search people also looking for a sexcontact now, and the same for your country only. So you won't have to search everywhere just to make a quick sexcontact.
As a lot of people are a bit shy to just send a message, we've created the option to send an automated sex invitation to that user. Simply click on it, and the user you selected will receive an automated sex invitation.
You can always change your online status following Your Settings -> Your Online Settings at any time.
Second, it is always nice to see who's interested in you.
You yourself can let people, indirectly, know you might be interested by voting for them for ex., or putting them on your whislist, or simply by visiting their profile.
A more direct way is to send them an instant message, or to ask to be their buddy (which can be done at the bottom of their profile page).
You can see who is interested in you in the Contact Centre.
Your contacts, if online, always show up on top of your Who's online lists. If you open the messenger (menu on the left), you not only receive your message directly, but you are also notified if one of your contacs comes online (or leaves). You can also disable this by following Your Settings -> Your Account -> Your messenger Settings (top option). This functionality was brought back into place upon your many requests with the massive system rebuilt in May 2005.
Another handy tool is to use the Message of the Day, which is displayed in the online lists as an extra with your profile. You can find and set it following Message Centre (menu on the left) -> top option Message of today.
Nederlands: Als je account succesvol is aangemaakt:
English: once your account has been succesfully created:
You can receive messages in various ways. Most common is to use the Messenger. Your messages automatically pop up once sent.
important note about the messenger:
If you use your messenger, messages pop up with you once sent by the sender. It automatically marks them as being read. This means that if you did not see the pop up message (and is left sitting there) the message is stil marked read, and will not show up again, and is transferred to your archive.
Another way is to use the New Messages option from the menu on the left (recommended). There, you will find your new messages arranged by user and by time sent. The advantage of the New Messages option is that it also displays your earlier correspondance with that user.
In addition to the New Messages menu option, you can set your messenger as a Notifier-only. To set it, follow Your Settings -> Your Account -> Your messenger Settings. You will then be notified immediately of new messages without having to read it from the popup.
All messages are stored in the Archives (menu on the left Message Centre, from there select Archive). Messages in the archives however, are not safeguarded. If you would like to safeguard them, for ex. for future reference or just as a reminder, you can store them in your Private Box (for more help on that, see below, Further help).
You can now also store a new message to your private Inbox directly by clicking the little icon.
The number of functions built in this site is too much to all mention briefly here. If applicable, you can find context sensitive help in the different areas as well (for ex. on how to protect your pictures). Some general options though:
If you are not online, you still can receive direct messages. With this function, you can let the system let you know that you have private messages waiting by sending you an email. This only works if you are not logged in, and can be activated in Your Settings -> Your Account (disabled by default).
In the contact centre you can see who's interested in you, and people who have you on their wishlist. Alternatively, users you put on your wishlist, can also see you have them on your wishlist. You can hide your wishlist on the page People Interested in You, which can be found in the Contact Centre (disabled by default).
You will find that once you make contact with other users, have people as your buddies and on your wishlist, and initiate contact by sending private instant messages, you can conveniently arrange and maintain your contacts in various ways. We've tried to get you as much tools as you may need, if however, you feel that something is missing, it is a challenge to see your wish integrated. To achieve that, simply get us your suggestion and you may be suprised!
Most functionality at this site is present because of and thanks to the suggestions of your fellow users.
General Site Considerations
These sites are made and maintained by some crazy volunteers. Please keep that in mind if you have a question for us, and consider you being busy with your hobby as an addressee. This also means that you may put your suggestions forward, and be surprised with them actually being built for you. On the other hand, this means that commercial profiles are removed, as well as 'suspicous' profiles. Don't think you can mess up these sites with phoney mess or spamming users, we have more tools available than you may know, and they will always result in you being blocked from any further usage, or, worse case secario, an abuse report to your ISP.
Technically speaking, the knowledge available to our volunteers is on average bigger nowadays then on expensive comparative sites, e.g. we can get you an as advanced, or, if you ask us to, more advanced functionality layout. Over the years we've built and added many things per your request; just keep your requests coming, that's all we ask.
>> Help on creating boxes for Your Contacts
>> Help on using your Blocklist
>> Help on Your Private box
>> How to get rid of the sex-tag; msg notifier, change your online status
>> Help with login problems/ problems editing your profile and pictures/ deleting your profile
having questions or problems? No problem, just send tomnl a message (one of our webmasters who usually is online).
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Revision date: August 19, 2006